新加坡之支，向下兼容式约会，到底是什么样的？
无力吐槽，真是换了语言并不会减少支味啊。原文是英语写的，里面的味道，仍然是，很臭很支。
1.夸赞男友会为自己偷偷买单（明知道自己收入高）
2.喜欢去fancy places (成为一种必须）
3. 逼出男友的赚钱能力（提升一倍）
4. 崇尚"新的生活标准"
（以下google翻译，从lemon8这个app里扒出来不容易，查了下还是字节跳动的）
向下约会，到底是什么样的
---------caipngwfish
（受一个抖音的启发，我看到一个人提到“男人比女性更有可能向下兼容式约会”）
在当今时代，这通常意味着和比你收入能力较低或受教育程度较低的人约会（因为社会地位不再重要了……对吧？）。
首先，我不是嫌弃我男朋友，我约会向下是事实。因为我们谈论的是赚钱能力和教育。 我不会明确
对他发表评论，但把一切都说出来——我想我的“情况更好”。
以下是我向下兼容式约会的经验。
我在一个普通家庭长大，他们希望我过上好生活，我被教导说我需要一个上三大大学并且有XX或YY的好丈夫无论介于两者之间，收入至少高于 XX 金额，要有雄心壮志够了，wtv。没有听从父母的这些建议，我只希望我的男人具备的一项特质。
他重视家庭
最终，你会有一个愿意照顾你的人
我周围的女朋友和销售人员、医生、大公司的会计师和一些人约会过开心。 其中，有很多人用眯着眼睛看着我，“你是吗？”你确定要和他约会吗？”
当我们正式开始恋爱关系时，他坦白了他的收入，而我对我的收入撒了谎（我的收入几乎是他的两倍，顺便说一句，我的工资是大学的平均水平，我不想让他感到被阉割 - 我的担心是没有原因的 他没有……哈哈）。 他向我保证，虽然现在他只能提供偶尔的元气寿司和枣子，但他会更加努力地工作给我他所期望的美好生活。我喜欢他的声音，他让我发笑，所以我们开始了我们的关系。我有时带他去一些很高端奢侈的地方，因为我负担得起，但他尽管此时他已经知道了我的收入，但他最终还是吞下了账单。我赚了很多（他在我离开的时候偷偷支付，将我赚的钱转回给我）已转移他等）。
我总是向他保证没关系，我可以拿到账单，他只需要下次请我去高档地方，但这个人拒绝了。 事实上，收到账单让他更有动力去做得更好，因为他需要跟上“新的生活标准”。他花了一年的时间才达到和我一样的收入。 1年让他的赚钱能力翻倍。 这个人能做的事真是令人惊奇。
“你选择他是因为他给了你 20 美元，我给了你 10 美元。 但我只有 10 美元，而他有 20 多美元”。
这是真的，他有 100 美元，他给了我 100 美元，他有 10,000 美元，他给了我 10,000 美元。 他确实付出了自己的一切。
无论你的约会对象是律师、医生还是没有学位的人，这并不重要——在我看来，真正重要的是心态、性格和态度。 我不想这么说，但实际上——找到一个爱你的人，一个专注、执着且……有趣的人。
您可以拥有完整的要求列表，即： 这个人必须来自富裕家庭，有车，有最低收入，但你真的会幸福吗？
如果我不是和来自大型跨国公司的人约会又怎样，他真的给了我一切 - 他看着我并同意了，我喜欢这样，老实说我从来没有这么快乐过。
向下约会？ 根据我的经验，无论过去还是现在都比我横向约会时要好（笑）
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https://www.lemon8-app.com/caipngwfish/7257842607227666945?region=sg
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Dating Downwards, what it is really like
(Inspired by a tiktok I watched of a guy mentioning that “Men are more likely
to date down than women”)
Dating down generally means dating someone of lesser “caliber” than you. In
this day and age, it generally means lesser earning power or less educated
(since social status isn’t a thing anymore…right?).
First of all, I am not dissing my boyfriend, it is a fact that I dated downwards
since we are talking about earning power, education. I won’t explicitly
comment on him but laying it all out - I am of a “better standing” I guess.
Here is my experience from dating down.
Growing up in an average family who wanted a good life for me, I was taught
I needed a good husband who goes to the big 3 university and has XX or YY
and whatever in between, earn at least above XX amount, be ambitious
enough and wtv.
Instead of going along with whatever my parents wanted me to have; I came up with just 1 trait I wanted my man to have.
He values family
Ultimately, you have someone who WANTS to take care of you
Girl friends around me dated sales, doctors, big firm accountants and some
are happy. Among them, many looked at me with squinted eyes of “are you
sure you want to date him?”.
When we officially started the relationship he was upfront about his income and I lied about mine (I earn almost double of his, btw my pay is average for uni, and I didn’t want him to feel emasculated - my worries were for nothing cause he didn’t…lol). He assured me that although for now - all he can provide is caipng with occasional Genki sushi and dates, he will work harder
to give me that good life he envisioned me to have.
I like the sound of that and he makes me laugh so we begin our relationship.
I took him to a few fancy places on occasion because I could afford it but he
still end up swallowing the bill even though by this time he already knew how
much I am earning (secretly paying while I am away, transferring me the sum I
have transferred him etc).
I would always assure him that it is ok and that I could get the bill and he just need to treat me to fancy places next time but this man - refused. In fact, him getting the bill made him more motivated to do better in life because he needs to keep up with the “new standard of living”.
It took him 1 year to reach the same standing as me. 1 year to double his earning power. Its amazing what this man can do.
“You picked him because he gave you $20 and I gave you $10. But $10 was all I had and he had more than $20”.
And its true, he has $100 he gives me $100, he has $10,000 he gives me $10,000. He truly gives his all.
It doesn’t matter if you are dating a lawyer or a doctor or someone with no degree - what really matters (imo) is the mindset, character and attitude. I hate to say this but really - find someone who loves you, someone who is dedicated, persistent and…funny.
You could have this entire list of requirements ie. The guy needs to be from a rich family, having a car, a minimum income wtv - but will you really be happy?
So what if I am not dating someone from a big MNCs, he truly gave me
everything - he set his eyes on me and went with it, I liked that and I have honestly never been happier.
Dating downwards? In my experience, it was and still is better than when I dated laterally (lol)
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1.夸赞男友会为自己偷偷买单（明知道自己收入高）
2.喜欢去fancy places (成为一种必须）
3. 逼出男友的赚钱能力（提升一倍）
4. 崇尚"新的生活标准"
（以下google翻译，从lemon8这个app里扒出来不容易，查了下还是字节跳动的）
向下约会，到底是什么样的
---------caipngwfish
（受一个抖音的启发，我看到一个人提到“男人比女性更有可能向下兼容式约会”）
在当今时代，这通常意味着和比你收入能力较低或受教育程度较低的人约会（因为社会地位不再重要了……对吧？）。
首先，我不是嫌弃我男朋友，我约会向下是事实。因为我们谈论的是赚钱能力和教育。 我不会明确
对他发表评论，但把一切都说出来——我想我的“情况更好”。
以下是我向下兼容式约会的经验。
我在一个普通家庭长大，他们希望我过上好生活，我被教导说我需要一个上三大大学并且有XX或YY的好丈夫无论介于两者之间，收入至少高于 XX 金额，要有雄心壮志够了，wtv。没有听从父母的这些建议，我只希望我的男人具备的一项特质。
他重视家庭
最终，你会有一个愿意照顾你的人
我周围的女朋友和销售人员、医生、大公司的会计师和一些人约会过开心。 其中，有很多人用眯着眼睛看着我，“你是吗？”你确定要和他约会吗？”
当我们正式开始恋爱关系时，他坦白了他的收入，而我对我的收入撒了谎（我的收入几乎是他的两倍，顺便说一句，我的工资是大学的平均水平，我不想让他感到被阉割 - 我的担心是没有原因的 他没有……哈哈）。 他向我保证，虽然现在他只能提供偶尔的元气寿司和枣子，但他会更加努力地工作给我他所期望的美好生活。我喜欢他的声音，他让我发笑，所以我们开始了我们的关系。我有时带他去一些很高端奢侈的地方，因为我负担得起，但他尽管此时他已经知道了我的收入，但他最终还是吞下了账单。我赚了很多（他在我离开的时候偷偷支付，将我赚的钱转回给我）已转移他等）。
我总是向他保证没关系，我可以拿到账单，他只需要下次请我去高档地方，但这个人拒绝了。 事实上，收到账单让他更有动力去做得更好，因为他需要跟上“新的生活标准”。他花了一年的时间才达到和我一样的收入。 1年让他的赚钱能力翻倍。 这个人能做的事真是令人惊奇。
“你选择他是因为他给了你 20 美元，我给了你 10 美元。 但我只有 10 美元，而他有 20 多美元”。
这是真的，他有 100 美元，他给了我 100 美元，他有 10,000 美元，他给了我 10,000 美元。 他确实付出了自己的一切。
无论你的约会对象是律师、医生还是没有学位的人，这并不重要——在我看来，真正重要的是心态、性格和态度。 我不想这么说，但实际上——找到一个爱你的人，一个专注、执着且……有趣的人。
您可以拥有完整的要求列表，即： 这个人必须来自富裕家庭，有车，有最低收入，但你真的会幸福吗？
如果我不是和来自大型跨国公司的人约会又怎样，他真的给了我一切 - 他看着我并同意了，我喜欢这样，老实说我从来没有这么快乐过。
向下约会？ 根据我的经验，无论过去还是现在都比我横向约会时要好（笑）
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https://www.lemon8-app.com/caipngwfish/7257842607227666945?region=sg
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Dating Downwards, what it is really like
(Inspired by a tiktok I watched of a guy mentioning that “Men are more likely
to date down than women”)
Dating down generally means dating someone of lesser “caliber” than you. In
this day and age, it generally means lesser earning power or less educated
(since social status isn’t a thing anymore…right?).
First of all, I am not dissing my boyfriend, it is a fact that I dated downwards
since we are talking about earning power, education. I won’t explicitly
comment on him but laying it all out - I am of a “better standing” I guess.
Here is my experience from dating down.
Growing up in an average family who wanted a good life for me, I was taught
I needed a good husband who goes to the big 3 university and has XX or YY
and whatever in between, earn at least above XX amount, be ambitious
enough and wtv.
Instead of going along with whatever my parents wanted me to have; I came up with just 1 trait I wanted my man to have.
He values family
Ultimately, you have someone who WANTS to take care of you
Girl friends around me dated sales, doctors, big firm accountants and some
are happy. Among them, many looked at me with squinted eyes of “are you
sure you want to date him?”.
When we officially started the relationship he was upfront about his income and I lied about mine (I earn almost double of his, btw my pay is average for uni, and I didn’t want him to feel emasculated - my worries were for nothing cause he didn’t…lol). He assured me that although for now - all he can provide is caipng with occasional Genki sushi and dates, he will work harder
to give me that good life he envisioned me to have.
I like the sound of that and he makes me laugh so we begin our relationship.
I took him to a few fancy places on occasion because I could afford it but he
still end up swallowing the bill even though by this time he already knew how
much I am earning (secretly paying while I am away, transferring me the sum I
have transferred him etc).
I would always assure him that it is ok and that I could get the bill and he just need to treat me to fancy places next time but this man - refused. In fact, him getting the bill made him more motivated to do better in life because he needs to keep up with the “new standard of living”.
It took him 1 year to reach the same standing as me. 1 year to double his earning power. Its amazing what this man can do.
“You picked him because he gave you $20 and I gave you $10. But $10 was all I had and he had more than $20”.
And its true, he has $100 he gives me $100, he has $10,000 he gives me $10,000. He truly gives his all.
It doesn’t matter if you are dating a lawyer or a doctor or someone with no degree - what really matters (imo) is the mindset, character and attitude. I hate to say this but really - find someone who loves you, someone who is dedicated, persistent and…funny.
You could have this entire list of requirements ie. The guy needs to be from a rich family, having a car, a minimum income wtv - but will you really be happy?
So what if I am not dating someone from a big MNCs, he truly gave me
everything - he set his eyes on me and went with it, I liked that and I have honestly never been happier.
Dating downwards? In my experience, it was and still is better than when I dated laterally (lol)
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1.夸赞男友会为自己偷偷买单（明知道自己收入高）
2.喜欢去fancy places (成为一种必须）
3. 逼出男友的赚钱能力（提升一倍）
4. 崇尚"新的生活标准"
為何我看完後，得到的資訊跟你上面那四點不一樣? 😆
建議直接看原文。有些東西翻譯得不對。
1. 作者受到社會壓力，被要求要向上約會
2. 作者不介意"向下約會"，因為有比物質更重要的東西
3. 為了顧及男友的男性尊嚴，作者刻意做了一些事，例如謊報自己的收入，搶帳單付錢。但後來才知道男友根本不介意。(是個貼心的女孩啊)
4. 作者跟男友說，她可以付帳單沒問題，只要他願意下次再帶她去高檔地方就好。男友拒絕了。男友說付帳能讓他自己成長，努力賺更多錢 (是個上進的男孩啊)
2.喜欢去fancy places (成为一种必须）
3. 逼出男友的赚钱能力（提升一倍）
4. 崇尚"新的生活标准"
為何我看完後，得到的資訊跟你上面那四點不一樣? 😆
建議直接看原文。有些東西翻譯得不對。
1. 作者受到社會壓力，被要求要向上約會
我周围的女朋友和销售人员、医生、大公司的会计师和一些人约会过开心。 其中，有很多人用眯着眼睛看着我，”你确定要和他约会吗？”
2. 作者不介意"向下約會"，因為有比物質更重要的東西
无论你的约会对象是律师、医生还是没有学位的人，这并不重要——在我看来，真正重要的是心态、性格和态度。 我不想这么说，但实际上——找到一个爱你的人，一个专注、执着且……有趣的人。
所以，没有和来自大型跨国公司的人约会又如何呢? 他确实给了我他的全部一切 - 他把眼光專注在我身上，就這樣一直持續下去。我喜歡這樣，老實說我從來沒有這麼幸福過。
3. 為了顧及男友的男性尊嚴，作者刻意做了一些事，例如謊報自己的收入，搶帳單付錢。但後來才知道男友根本不介意。(是個貼心的女孩啊)
I didn’t want him to feel emasculated - my worries were for nothing cause he didn’t…lol
4. 作者跟男友說，她可以付帳單沒問題，只要他願意下次再帶她去高檔地方就好。男友拒絕了。男友說付帳能讓他自己成長，努力賺更多錢 (是個上進的男孩啊)
妈的，新加坡现在就是支加坡。
不喜欢学习新语言，喜欢华人扎堆的老种都往支加坡跑
不喜欢学习新语言，喜欢华人扎堆的老种都往支加坡跑
已隐藏
这种拜金的人真恶心，
我真希望能够亲自骚死这种人！
我真希望能够亲自骚死这种人！
本来搞不通这些人怎么想的，后来一想反正花的也不是我的钱，随便他吧
年轻人有这种想法很正常。
只要在碰到瓶颈，收入没有提升的时候开始不满就行。
只要在碰到瓶颈，收入没有提升的时候开始不满就行。
东亚文化的恶臭，儒家的毒还没有完全清除,期盼洋大人快来殖民
